It’s a rainy Saturday here in Upstate NY, a good day to catch up on things, including this blog. Life has been busy and I haven’t had much time to even thinking about blogging.
Today’s blog is regarding a topic that has been heavy on my mind lately: conflicting emotions and nudist locations. Being a person who works with children who have mental illness, I know a few things about emotions. I’m certainly no expert on the subject, but I feel like I have some knowledge of it nonetheless.
As humans, we can have mixed emotions at times. We can be sad and angry, we can be joyful and proud. But some emotions just don’t seem to be compatible. Take, for instance, fear and joy. I’m seeing those two as one or the other most of the time. If you’re scared of something it’s really hard to feel joy.
Which brings me to the topic on my mind: how do people enjoy being at a nudist location if they’re scared? I know the first-timers fear of what will happen and during that fearful stage there really isn’t a lot of joy. This is typically overcome quickly and people see the joy in social nudism. Other fears seem to be on-going for some people. Take the fear of being “found out,” that is, that people will find out you’re a nudist. If people are feeling this fear, I’m sure there’s a reason. I don’t discount their fear- there are families who will reject you if you’re a nudist, some people’s jobs could be lost if they’re found out, and some spiteful exes may try to take the children as a result. These are real fears. If every camera that you see or every phone conversation that you overhear makes you fearful, can you really enjoy yourself at a nudist location? Maybe people can, but I just don’t see how. Again, I don’t judge the fears, I just don’t see how people can be so scared as some people appear to be and enjoy themselves. I have to wonder why they come to a nudist place if it’s so fearful.
I don’t know if my own thoughts on nudist places are the norm or the abnormal. Anyone who googles my name will see that my name is linked to AANR and AANR-East all over the place and all of my family knows that I’m a nudist, so I guess that I’m “out” more than most. Yet I’d prefer that my employer not receive naked pictures of me; I live in NY and we are a free-will employment state, which means they can terminate my employment for no better reason than they don’t like the color of my shirt. I don’t want to lose my job but I’m not terribly afraid of that- there’s other jobs out there should that happen. I don’t fear cameras that I can see that are clearly not pointed at me, but I am aware that there are satellites taking photos all the time, for Google Earth, for example, and I am aware that these satellites could very well capture pictures of me in my nude state. This is just life.
There are many things in life that are scary and I’ve experienced many of them. Perhaps this is why I don’t have a high level of fear of “exposure,” either through pictures or word of mouth. I know that I can’t be scared and be joyful and when I’m at a nudist location, I choose to be joyful. I don’t want to get into the camera/ cell phone issue yet again, but I’m wondering if anyone out there can provide insight to me on their choice to participate in social nudism even though they’re scared of being “found out” because I just don’t understand how it can be fun if there’s so much fear involved. Any ideas?
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